It’s Not You, It’s Me

Remember that classic breakup line? The way to let someone down easy. To reassure them that they’re great even though it’s not going to work out. ‘It’s ME that’s the problem, not you!’

Turns out there’s a nugget of truth in this statement.

You have a neural network for every person in your life - your partner, your boss, your kid, your mother-in-law.

The neural network you have for each person in your life is like a well-groomed path. When you think of this person, your thoughts travel down that path automatically. If they once did something to piss you off, you remember it. You replay your judgments about them every time you light up that network. The way you see, experience, or think of any person in your life is, in part, a habit of thought.

Ever meet someone brand new that reminds you of someone you know? You will unconsciously apply some of your habitual thoughts about the person you know to the new person. Isn’t that crazy?

Here’s why: your brain is super efficient. Left to its own devices, it will choose the groomed path over forging a new connection. Your brain wants to conserve energy.

The problem is, that well-grooved neural network severely limits your ability to take in new information about a person and see them differently. The teacher John Overdurf says, ‘How you see another person in your mind is the best they can ever be in your presence.’

It doesn’t have to be that way.

What if you could prune apart those well-groomed networks to let in new information?

Turns out, you can. Your brain is highly plastic and adaptable and your thoughts about anyone or anything can be rewired. Though it takes some work, you can change the way you see people in your life by cleaning up your old programming.

Want to know more? Click here to book a complimentary session with me and we’ll change the neural network for a person in your life. In 60 minutes I can help you significantly shift the way you’re seeing someone.

So you can begin to see with fresh eyes.